Who would study psychology unless they had some issues?!

The negative emotions within the visitor's statement are very full.

However, at this moment, the manner of statement carries a tone of joking.

Essentially, it is still a form of [defense].

Fortunately, with the current counseling relationship between Nan Zhubin and the visitor, just a slight verbal prod is enough to tear through this layer of [defense].

Nan Zhubin first nodded, indicating that he received the information given by the visitor, then provided a [feedback]: "It sounds like you seem to have certain... troubles in communicating with your parents?"

This sentence uses a questioning tone, but in fact, it is a declarative sentence.

Sure enough, after hearing this [feedback] from Nan Zhubin, the smile on the visitor's face immediately faded.

He first exhaled two breaths through his nose, then opened his mouth to sigh longly, causing his entire body to go soft, collapsing onto the sofa.

"My relationship with my parents is very... complicated."

After a long time, he said a tone-setting sentence slowly.

"I don't like talking to them, but they really like talking to me. After I left home for university, it was basically them calling me, I seldom actively contacted them."

"When chatting on the phone, it's basically just... 'small talk'." The visitor used a term not quite suitable for a parent-child relationship.

Then he explained, "I always feel very tired when talking to them. I feel like I'm playing the role of a 'son' in the conversation, and then responding to their concern for me to satisfy their need to play the 'parent'..."

After saying this, the visitor glanced at Nan Zhubin, as if to avoid misunderstanding, explaining, "Of course, of course, I know their concern is real, and they really miss me, which is why they call, but..."

Then, there was a moment of silence.

Nan Zhubin waited for two breaths before saying, "You don't miss them?"

"No." The visitor answered quickly. Then hesitated for a moment and added, "Maybe I would have missed them before, but later... I felt very tired. After every conversation with them, I would feel very exhausted because I needed to play a 'son' that could satisfy them, which turned into something more draining than working late for me."

"Like... I used to encounter things that would make me very anxious, such as filling out college applications. At that time, my parents said they would help me with ideas, but it just got more and more confusing. I was already not in a good state, and I told them if I could think about it slowly by myself. But they said no, they said such an important thing, as parents, they had to be beside me giving advice to prevent me from being nervous..."

"Haha..."

The visitor almost laughed through gritted teeth, still a bitter smile: "As a result, during that period, I could say I was under the anxiety of not ideal results, expending a lot of energy finding schools that I could apply to, while also having to explain the application process to them, and comforting them that I could definitely get into a good university, telling them not to worry..."

"Very tiring." The visitor said, "There are many such occasions."

At this point, the visitor took a deep breath.

"Like this time when something happened to me, my mom called that day. I know she's concerned about me. But I felt... she was more panicked than I was, and when chatting with her, she was the one outputting emotions to me. Instead, I was the one calming her."

The visitor slowly exhaled the air he had inhaled into his chest, looking up at the ceiling, "If it were the previous situations, I could still handle her. But this time I couldn't, I was too upset, too upset, I didn't have the extra energy to divide to her, so I... lost control."

Nan Zhubin suddenly said, "Seeing it this way, you losing control and smashing things can actually be seen as a form of subconscious physical protection, allowing you to stop this high-consumption conversation."

The visitor was taken aback upon hearing this.

He seemed to have never thought in this direction, stirring his mind.

Only after a long time did he continue slowly, "Regarding this matter, I... felt very guilty to my mom after regaining my sense."

"And then, it also made me feel more regretful about the scam incident."

The visitor said, "I went to college, joined the army, and then did my master's, finding part-time work to become economically independent, in a sense, trying to shape myself into a... 'independent son', so even if they called to contact me, I could sometimes say I am 'busy', and then get through it."

"But after this incident, we started frequent communication again, repeatedly making me very tired."

The account of the three things ended here.

Finished, the visitor glanced at Nan Zhubin's expression, and added, "It's only with Teacher Nan that I would talk about the third thing. If it were outside... anyone who hears it would blame me, after all... it's too 'unfilial'."

…

Nan Zhubin first gave the visitor who had finished his statement a smile, then offered a support, "In the consulting room, we can say whatever we want. I'm a consultant, I know that many seemingly simple relationships in the world actually have complex backgrounds."

The visitor showed a look of relief, perhaps because after a long time of narration, he felt a bit thirsty and reached out for the water cup.

Gulp, gulp, gulp—

In the meantime, Nan Zhubin's eyes lost focus.

[Flow State] activated.

Nan Zhubin quickly analyzed the contents of the visitor's statement, trying to integrate what was expressed within it with the consultation plan.

[If only you could say this much during the first consultation... cough cough, my thoughts have scattered too much.]

[After all, the visitor is a complex individual growing up under the influence of subjective internal and objective external environments, it's impossible for them to narrate in the form of textbooks and reference books in the consultation...]

Nan Zhubin blinked.

The visitor's recent statement concealed many very classic problems.

The most significant one is the [original family] issue—this is also the most important aspect in Nan Zhubin's counseling plan, because issues with [adult attachment style] are definitely related to the family growth environment.

Nan Zhubin could also be sure, regarding family, the visitor still has a lot left unsaid. What was revealed today is just the tip of the iceberg.

However—

This is not the focus of today's consultation, this is an issue to be resolved in the third stage of consultation.

If we were to concretize the visitor's issue, it would be like seeing him as someone who became physically weak due to malnutrition from a young age, and then got a fracture injury during outdoor activities.

The [grounding technique] from the previous stage was an emergency measure to stop the bleeding, splint the wound, inject antibiotics, etc., to prevent the person from dying before reaching the hospital.

And the second stage, starting today, is to perform surgery on the visitor, allowing him to recover from this accidental injury.

As for the subsequent third stage, the exploration of the [original family] is about nourishing the visitor's body, conducting physical training to make him healthy—or at least as healthy as possible.

…

All these thoughts flashed through Nan Zhubin's mind in less than two breaths.

At this moment, the visitor still hadn't put down the water cup.

Nan Zhubin patiently waited for the visitor to be ready again, then slowly said, "In your recent statement, I noticed several very critical points."