Chapter 394: The Art of Compromise
In the center of a Japanese-style old house living room is a table, with four people seated around it, each occupying a side. Little Tamako is seated at the lowest position, kneeling on a cushion, her back straight, pretending to listen attentively to Teacher Fushimi's speech:
"You might not know this, but according to the 'Family Emotional Climate White Paper' released by Tokyo University of Education in 1981: in families with high-frequency marital conflicts, the probability of girls engaging in self-harming behavior is 2.3 times that of boys."
As he spoke, he pulled out a whiteboard from somewhere, using a black marker to write down the theme of this seminar: 'Girls Invisibly Wounded in Family Conflicts.'
This is Fushimi Roku's devised strategy to mediate arguments, shifting the issue of right and wrong between the spouses onto the child's education. Both parties would calm down considerably, especially relatively rational couples, knowing their behavior affects the child, thus they would care deeply and have a sense of compensation towards their child.
Using the excuse of improving little Tamako's academic abilities, Fushimi Roku formally convened a family seminar, forcibly involving the entire family, stating it's 'part of the study,' akin to the Wall-Facer Luo Ji strategy.
At the moment, he continued to exaggerate the severity of the situation:
"Based on the ten-year follow-up research results from the Tokyo Mental Health Center, the expressions of harm differ between boys and girls."
"Boys often in family conflict environments may show increased aggression, hyperactivity, attention dispersion, deviant behavior, and commitment avoidance;"
"While girls may experience binge eating disorder, perfectionist tendencies, excessive people-pleasing, and pathological tolerance of abuse. Additionally, physiologically, in high-conflict families, girls experience menarche 1.7 years earlier."
"Regarding future views on love and marriage, parental arguments have a more profound impact on girls. They may develop fear and doubt towards marriage, worrying they will repeat their parents' mistakes. Even if they enter marriage, they may find themselves helpless in dealing with marital conflicts due to a lack of correct interaction mode."
Not all of Fushimi Roku's claims are fabricated; he merely attributed previous research results to the Tokyo Mental Health Center, making it sound more authoritative. In fact, Asia does poorly in mental health areas, so much that even common psychological diseases fail to receive much attention.
Take the situations Fushimi Roku just listed as an example; as an adult, little Tamako practically ticks every box, one could say, 'the Khan points at soldiers, and a scroll with her name exists.'
Minamoto Tamako's perfectionist tendencies need no elaboration; she excessively pleases her superiors at work and has a near-pathological tolerance for Fushimi Roku's bad habits. Her physical development is stagnant, making her still resemble a child; in male-female relationships, Kujo Yua herself stated that due to her failed marriage, Minamoto Tamako has a strong desire for control stemming from her unease regarding gender relationships.
As for binge eating disorder, her obsession with sweets speaks of it, merely because the Kujo family's strict management forbids binge eating, preventing her from indulging excessively.
Though merely minor ailments collectively, they accumulate over time, with minor issues inevitably evolving into major ones... should Fushimi Roku marry Minamoto Tamako, he too might face these matters.
Concerned with Minamoto Tamako's mental health, Fushimi Roku took this matter more seriously, not wanting even a single mentally normal person absent at home. Hence, with twelve points of focus, he continued:
"Research indicates, girls are more prone to attributing conflicts to their own mistakes, with seventy-eight percent of girls believing 'it's their own disobedience leading to parental arguments'... Tamako, do you think this way?"
Tamako initially paid no heed, but while listening, she couldn't help but overthink. She felt self-harm seemed exaggerated, surely she wouldn't do that... However, upon hearing 'it's their own disobedience leading to parental arguments,' her eyes felt hot, as though this sentence pierced into her, openly revealing the grievances she wished to voice.
She wanted to nod but glanced at the wicked Kujo Yua, then at the sickly Minamoto Genichiro, hesitated for a while, and dared not clearly express herself.
Fushimi Roku intertwined his fingers, even if Tamako stayed silent, he could elaborate on the subject: "You see, the child has been pressured by both of you to the point of silence. In the future, how will she socialize normally? How will she make friends with peers? How will she stand firm in society? Do you know Tamako has no friends at school?"
Father Minamoto Genichiro lacks any sense of a family's authority, appearing as a frail, tubercular ghost, with a pale face, hunched body, speaking once requiring three breaths. Yet despite this condition, he maintained his pride, smoothly blaming, "I have always said... cough cough... you should quit your job to take care of Tamako... but now, just look..."
The wicked Kujo Yua was furious, black flames boiling ceaselessly from her, causing the room temperature to drop eight degrees, almost condensing water droplets on the glass surface: "Then why don't you resign and take care of Tamako? You're so sick, yet want me to quit?! What, are you hoping to have me peacefully stay at home to receive your sudden death notification, then comfortably be a wealthy widow?!!"
Though frail, Minamoto Genichiro was not afraid of his wife, directly stating: "It's for your sake! For the Kujo Family's sake! Do you know what the women at the ladies' club are discussing? They say that you were blind to marry a poor husband, forced to work outside, failing even to be a full-time housewife!"